Parenting Tip of the Day: “Put yourself in their shoes.”
Are you hurt when someone yells at you? Of course; so why wouldn’t your child be? “Our goal as parents should be to TEACH children and to build them up, not to tear them down. When we yell at them we risk damaging their self-esteem and sense of self-worth,” says Ashlee Roberts – PCAV’s 800-CHILDREN Parent Helpline Director. “Yelling is not effective!”
Consider how you’d feel if your boss yelled at you. You’d likely be embarrassed and hurt…often you don’t have a chance to process what your boss is saying because of how it was said. The same goes for your child. You must TEACH him what is acceptable and what is not without making him feel shame or embarrassment.